In the last 10 years, I have been in 3 different times in the process of looking for a job. What an exhausted process! A lot of energy and emotions in place. I failed so many times that I can’t even count them!
Every time I received the “thank you, but no thank you” answer or -even worse- no answer at all, my frustration was so big that I started to believe that the problem was ME.
I made a list of the possible reasons of my failures and one of them was my last name: “Maybe, when they see Quiñonez they think she’s an Immigrant” I thought. “Maybe, I should use Karina Van Noten instead (last name of my husband) and they will -at least- take a look at my CV”… Stupid, I know! But I didn’t do it 🙂
Finally, I thought: “I must be doing something wrong”. And from that moment, I stopped falling in depression and thinking that I, as a person, had no value in the Belgian job market.
I did two things:
- Ask for feedback to those that rejected me.
- Ask for help to a Professional.
I discovered that the problem wasn’t me, but how I presented “my story” to others. I adapted my process and continue trying. I finally got a job and I’m happy with it 🙂
If you are in that situation: failing once and again, keep in mind that the problem is not you!
“Remember that failure is an event, not a person”, Zig Ziglar.
Dance with your failures… use them to learn… adapt your process and do it again…
PS: Share this with anyone attempting to give up instead of keep on dancing!