In the last 10 years, I have been in 3 different times in the process of looking for a job. What an exhausted process! A lot of energy and emotions in place. I failed so many times that I can’t even count them!
Every time I received the “thank you, but no thank you” answer or -even worse- no answer at all, my frustration was so big that I started to believe that the problem was ME.
I made a list of the possible reasons of my failures and one of them was my last name: “Maybe, when they see Quiñonez they think she’s an Immigrant” I thought. “Maybe, I should use Karina Van Noten instead (last name of my husband) and they will -at least- take a look at my CV”… Stupid, I know! But I didn’t do it 🙂
Finally, I thought: “I must be doing something wrong”. And from that moment, I stopped falling in depression and thinking that I, as a person, had no value in the Belgian job market.
I did two things:
- Ask for feedback to those that rejected me.
- Ask for help to a Professional.
I discovered that the problem wasn’t me, but how I presented “my story” to others. I adapted my process and continue trying. I finally got a job and I’m happy with it 🙂
If you are in that situation: failing once and again, keep in mind that the problem is not you!
“Remember that failure is an event, not a person”, Zig Ziglar.
Dance with your failures… use them to learn… adapt your process and do it again…
PS: Share this with anyone attempting to give up instead of keep on dancing!
Success!
Kaqui…
March 21, 2016 at 10:51 pm
Interesting Karen. It had happened to me too! One of the most important things I´ve learned is the CV. As long as it responds to the job requirements – without too much poetry and/or prose 🙂 – the better. I´m not an expert preparing CV´s but one thing I´ve understood along all these years in a global market is no one going to read five or six pages of a resume. The more concrete on what you´re expertise is, the better…
I´m still have some dissapointed responses … or no responses at all! but as you said, I continue dancing with the failure… and at the end, the failure follows my steps and rythm
Thanks for sharing dear sobrina!
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March 22, 2016 at 8:15 am
Indeed… long stories in a CV do not work! “Less is more”, someone said 🙂
Enjoy the dancing tía. As long is Salsa or Merengue, we can take the lead!
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May 20, 2016 at 7:56 pm
And we are very happy that you are one of us!…
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May 21, 2016 at 10:55 am
Gracias, me too 🙂
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